It is of course different for everyone.  For My boy jimmy, I would say it is the Need to serve, just as for Me, it is the Need to be served.

 As a Teaser, to provoke thoughts in advance of the next chapter meeting, I will quote from Becoming a Slave by Jack Rinella.  What makes this book different, and I think better than other similar handbooks, is that each chapter concludes with corresponding thoughts by Master Jack's long time slave, Patrick. [Jack prefers to use standard"vanilla" punctuation and grammar, which I am observing, out of respect to him.]

 Slave Patrick from Becoming a Slave :

"Being a slave has a lot to do with feelings. It feels good to serve.  There is general contentment in being where you belong and a satisfaction in being bold enough to allow yourself to achieve it.  Physical contact with the one you serve is joyous and the attention you are shown causes you to beam with further joy.  An intimate little world develops; you can explore each other in ways you never imagined and in ways others can't conceive.

 "These feelings are not fleeting, as they are when you are caught up in the fantasy of slavery, which certainly lasts only until orgasm.  The feelings I refer to remain and build upon each other, growing stronger and more secure with the passage of time.  When a Master/slave relationship is successful, these feelings are ongoing; a bond is created with your Master that transcends the chain that might be around your neck or the contract that you might have signed.

 "The first thing you will have to do is overcome your fear.  Even if you've wanted it all your  life, when the moment of truth is at hand, part of you resists… Shame can enter into it, as well…This exchange between desire and fear continues until the desire and longing to be who you really are can no longer be held back, and you conquer your fear and take those first real steps…

 "That first real step feels wonderful.  There is a certainty in knowing you are headed to where you belong. Others won't understand it, and they can't be expected to; they aren't on such a path…

 "A true slave never loses his strength or dominance.Erotic slavery isn't about being beaten into submission.  Quite the contrary, you retain those good parts of yourself and turn them to helping you serve your Master, and that's when the journey becomes exciting and fulfilling. Your strength and dominance become tools  that help you serve better."

My boy and I look forward to seeing all (or most) of you at the Chapter Meeting next Saturday.

Leather hugs,

Master Bear Robert

Chapter Facilitator